This year, it’s decided, you make the right decision not to leave the office after 7:30 pm. Or better, you want to ask for an increase. Or planning a total retraining
Make a positive assessment of the year
Before discussing in 2017, first make a list of everything you have done well this year as record completed on time, good relationships with your colleagues , one of your interns found a permanent position … “This kind of assessment of the past year is full of positive energy, what to start on the right foot,” suggests the coach.
A first spontaneous list
In bulk, without thinking and without commitment, throw all your wills on paper, the good as the bad, the craziest and the simplest. If you dry, Nathalie Renard offers several exercises in her notebook to find inspiration.
The treasure map
Draw a tree with many branches. Each branch represents an aspect of your position: money, skills, network … It is up to you to continue the story at the end of each branch.
The magic of words
Make a list of words beginning with a verb: I want to do / be / see / live / learn / become / experiment / play / buy / sell / find / make … to you to finish the sentences.
“The idea is not to commit now but to open the valves to make a sort later. Sleep a night on it and the next day, ask yourself the question “if I really listen, what is left?” Adds Nathalie Renard. It may be interesting to identify the resolutions that are repeated from one year to the next, those that will really change the daily life at work and those that will make it possible to realize a real desire or a dream, in the context of a reconversion by example.”
Rewrite the “official” list
A list of 6 to 8 objectives to be achieved in the year should emerge, to leave his job to be better organized by extending his network or arriving on time in the morning. Above all, rewrite them to own. “Writing involves more than thinking in one’s head or saying it orally. We can even sign on commitment if we want to go further, “suggests the author.
Imagine the result
“As the athlete who visualizes himself on the podium, it may be relevant to imagine the result through a drawing or a moodboard, to help visualize the path to go,” says the coach.
The first step
It is important to go there gradually, to divide the steps. Nathalie Renard uses the metaphor of the taxi driver: “His first action will be to loosen the hand brake before starting to go to point B. He knows where he is going but it is an accumulation of small actions to get there” .
To figure out the way ahead, plan ahead, with a deadline and reminders to keep moving. For example, if you have a goal of ” networking “, schedule alerts every week or every 15 days, remembering to re-mail your contacts or lunch with your old N + 1. Post-it, alert on the phone, all supports are accepted.
Brakes on the road
If your resolution requires a lot of involvement, it is normal to get discouraged along the way. In this case, take your pen again and describe what happens in your head. “You will be more lucid and can take a step back on the situation. Identifying your fears allows you to go exploring them. If it seems insurmountable, get help from a coach, “she says.
According to Nathalie Renard, “it is important to take the time to enjoy the success, and even the success of the intermediate stages.Especially if relatives are involved. Enjoy what has just happened. And make yourself a present! ”